You can help yourself and you can destroy yourself :
Forgiveness:
Maybe you have been through this before & I wanted to share it with you, mostly because of people I love & want to help: ( take two minutes)
When problems with others arrive, even though it might not be our fault, we should look at what we have done also, because maybe we get angry for something we don't like about the person, that we also have done before, or we also have inside us from our childhood.
Sometimes we put little things in such a big perspective, meanwhile there's bigger problems to worry about, or maybe the real problem is another one, & we are just trying to hide it.
I had to deal with very difficult people in my life & I might not be the easiest one either. We are all humans & sinners. We all have defects & good qualities. Sometimes I still need couple of days to forgive myself, & completely forgive others , to forget, to love my enemies & deal with my temper. Life is too short. There is no time for bitterness.
The bible say It would just damage myself, my heart, get us sick, old & hateful... It is better to find peace instead of damage our heart with hate & bitterness. Better forgive & forget, or ignore whoever lives in denial.
Things are not always how we want them to be. We are not always right. We have to accept when we are wrong & also accept others peoples points of views. Agree to disagree. You always have to put yourself in other peoples' shoes. See things from the other side. Understand that we are all the same in lots of ways & very different in lots others. Look at different perspectives & personalities.
That is how you grow. You learn from every one & mostly from your enemies. Live to learn & learn to live. This had helped me to feel sorry for the others instead of anger.
I'm learning to take a deep breath, relax & analyze things before I react with my puertorican temper which was one of my biggest defects before. I'm learning to see how insignificant the problems are, & what do I have to learned from it, because at the end the one who is angry is you, & maybe the other person is enjoying it.
Maybe in my subconscious I accumulated anger before, & I'm not going to let any negative past experiences control my life because the only one who can control my life is My Lord, & I'm very grateful for the heart He gave me, & also grateful for all the good & bad experiences that I've been through, they have made me a good human being.
The bible also say that we should always speak positive. If you speak good things about someone, that is exactly what you are going to received. Whatever you say, it will always come back to you. We have to learn to live a better quality of life. To enjoy life & beautiful little things.
You also have to face reality & talk about your negative things, let it out. Let go & let God.
All of us change with the years, get matured, get a family, have more responsibilities & less time. Lots of things inside us changed but lots are still the same. We have to grow out of the negative things for the better. I have learned a lot studying the bible. Everything is there. The bible teach you how to live & deal with situations.
My husband have learned a lot with the bible studies also. We have learned from each other too, & we are growing together. We analyze things, & in rough times we look for the peace of God, & we get out of the anger faster. Nobody is perfect, but we try to learn from our defects. My husband has way more qualities than defects. We share the same with our love ones. We don't keep any bitterness against anyone.
Everything in life good or bad, happens for a purpose. Learn the lesson, take the good, move on & get release, looking to the future. There's always a brighter light ahead.
Learn how to cultivate your heart. The world in not doing any better & not a lot of people either. There is a lot of envy, selfishness, competition, materialism, hate, hypocrisy, attitudes & egos, gossip, lies... None of this is important, at the end, this all make you miserable.
Do not destroy the beautiful in you. You could make the difference in the world. The only important thing is your happiness , the happiness of your love ones & the love, peace & knowledge that the Holy Spirit brings to your life.
Understand your purpose in this world, do Gods' will & help others showing them the love God has for everyone who believes. The truth will set you free... Pass this to all your love ones & everyone & you'll be bless.... : )
Self Destruction:
Self destruction end up with drugs. You can not help, or try to change whoever don't want to grow. Just plant one seed & watch it grow, if it doesn't want to grow, then it's not your responsibility. Let it to God & prayers. You have to know when to say no.
Any one or anything can make you happy if you enjoy self-destruction.
Some people enjoy self-pity.
Some like to live in guilt.
Some don't know how to deal with problems.
Some pay attention to little problems instead of the big picture.
Some get anxiety, depression, stress, insomnia, drastic change of moods...
If you are miserable with yourself, not even medication can change that either. It has to be YOURSELF.
Some people try to control everything they can't, some people want what they can not have, just because they can not have it. They get obsessed.
Some get an insecure ego and start competing for being love and get attention.
Some take for granted everyone and everything good they have.
Some manipulate you with these things, and suck you up into these same cycles until you are overwhelmed.
Some will use & control their love ones into their wrong actions.
There is a lot of needy people in this world. And some of these things happen to all of us. The clue is to catch it on time, and to know how to work on it. Almost all of us have at least one friend in drugs.
SPECIALLY KNOW THAT THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN CHANGE , IS YOURSELF. THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN TAKE YOU OUT OF DENIAL & SELF-DESTRUCTION IS YOURSELF & LORD.
Don't ask for forgiveness until you have forgive yourself. It would not change things.
UNTIL WHEN ?????....... FOLLOW GOD. SEEK FOR THE WORD OF GOD & FIND THE ANSWERS. IT IS THE ONLY THING YOU HAVE BESIDES YOURSELF......
A New Strength:
There are times in every life when we feel hurt or alone...
But I believe that these times when we feel lost and all around us seems to be falling apart
are really bridges of growth.
We struggle and try to recapture the security of what was, but almost in spite of ourselves...
we emerge on the other side with a new understanding, a new awareness, a new strength.
It is almost as though we must go through the pain and the struggle in order to grow and reach new heights.
That is why for the Lord, everything good or bad has a purpose....
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